Spoken word Poet Connor Franta once said, “It is not darkness in my heart but emptiness, waiting for the sun.”
And if you find yourself relating to this quote, then you’ve most likely realized the terrifying truth that the emptiness and meaninglessness of life is something a lot of us had to confront at some point in our lives.
Whether it’s all just a part of growing up and trying to figure out who you are and where you belong, we all find ourselves wondering how to make sense of it all and discovering what we were put on this earth to do.
With that said, if you are struggling with deep feelings of emptiness in your life right now, here are seven signs to help you figure out why and what you can do about it:
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- Your relationships aren’t fulfilling.
- You struggle with overdependence.
- You are perpetually bored with your life.
- You feel emotionally numb a lot.
- You feel alone and isolated from everyone else.
- You’ve lost touch with yourself.
- You have what you want and you’re still not happy.
Your relationships aren’t fulfilling.
Do you often find yourself spending time with people you don’t even like?
Or having uninteresting conversations where you just nod along and pretend to act interested?
Or date people you don’t even have any real feelings for just because you don’t wanna turn them down?
One of the longest and most famous studies on happiness known as the Harvard Study of Adult Development found that it was the quality of our relationships; meaning the level of emotional intimacy, support, and active listening that determined our life satisfaction and sense of well-being, not the quantity.
So leave behind all the unfulfilling relationships in your life to make room for better ones to come.
You struggle with overdependence.
Another telltale sign you might be feeling deep emptiness in your life is if you often find yourself overly dependent, needy, and clinging to those around you.
You might be jumping from one relationship to another because deep down inside you feel like something is missing in your life and you think other people can feel that void for you.
You’re scared to be alone because you don’t know who you are when you’re not defined by your relationship.
Other people give you your sense of identity and self-worth and without them, you can’t help but feel lost and empty.
You are perpetually bored with your life.
“I am going out of my mind with boredom. I don’t know what I wanna do with my life.” Is this something you find yourself feeling or thinking a lot of the time?
Are most of your days uninteresting and unengaging?
Do you feel like you’re just wasting your life and all your potential unable to find anything that brings you joy or meaning?
When people feel a deep emptiness in their life, it can look a lot like boredom. And that feeling comes from a lack of engagement, challenge, change, and opportunities for self-growth.
You feel emotionally numb a lot.
Although the people around you often remark that you seem sad or down lately, the truth is most days you have trouble feeling anything at all.
Where there was once joy, sadness, excitement, and interest, there’s now apathy and emotional detachment. While a lot of people do experience emotional detachment at certain points in their lives, it usually just kind of comes and goes.
So if the feeling or lack thereof it has stuck with you for a while now, it’s most likely a sign that you’re becoming aware of a deep emptiness you feel in your life.
You feel alone and isolated from everyone else.
The heavy feeling of life’s emptiness, meaninglessness and incompleteness can drive us away from the people around us, even those we love the most.
You might be feeling disconnected from everyone around you and struggling with a deep sense of loneliness that keeps you from emotionally connecting with others.
This becomes even more evident once you start avoiding people, canceling plans and hiding away to be by yourself for long periods of time.
You’ve lost touch with yourself.
Longing for something more but not knowing what it is is one of the clearest and most telltale signs that you’ve lost touch with yourself and are now living out of alignment with your purpose.
You don’t know who you are anymore or what you want and you’re painfully unsure about where your life is going.
And until you reconnect with your inner self and once again rediscover your purpose in life, a deep sense of emptiness tends to set in.
You have what you want and you’re still not happy.
On paper, it might seem like you have a lot to be grateful for but deep down inside, you know that something is still missing.
If you find that you have what you want and you’re still not happy, then it’s most likely going to leave you feeling disheartened, confused, unsure of yourself and empty.
This might be because all those wonderful things aren’t actually things you wanted for yourself but rather, what everyone else has decided for you to want.
Discovering your core values and what your personal mission in life is can help you get back on the right track.
So did you find yourself relating to any of the things we mentioned here?
Hopefully, even if the answer is yes, some of the things we’ve mentioned may help cultivate more meaning and purpose in your life.
And if you or anyone else you know is seriously struggling with your mental and well-being, please seek help and talk to a mental healthcare professional today.
Getting in touch with the right person can be a great first step to getting back on track.